Ask an Ombudsman

Volunteers advocating for Florida’s long-term care residents answer your questions regarding the health, safety, welfare, and rights of residents in long-term care facilities.

Sponsored by: Sam Golden, Ronnie Ostrow and Pauline Ogus Aberdeen’s Certified Ombudsman

Q: Who runs the Ombudsman Program?
A: Florida’s Ombudsman Program is administered by the Florida Department of Elder Affairs. The State Ombudsman is responsible for the overall functioning of the program. He does so through 17 district offices located throughout the state. A District Ombudsman Manager runs each local office. How-ever, the Ombudsman Program relies on volunteers to carry out the program’s mission of advocacy. The Ombudsman Program has over 300 certified volunteer ombudsmen ready and willing to advocate for long-term care residents.

For more information about the Ombudsman Program, visit the program’s website at http://ombudsman.myflorida.com

Q: Can I volunteer with the Ombudsman Program? Are there any prerequisites to become a volunteer ombudsman?
A: ABSOLUTELY! The Ombudsman Program is always seeking volunteers to help advocate for residents! Interested applicants can submit an application, which is found on the program’s website, or by calling 1-888-831-0404.

Although prior professional experience is beneficial, one does not need experience in any particular field to become a volunteer ombudsman. You will receive all the information you need to know about advocating for long-term care residents during your certification training. As a certified ombudsman, you will also have the support of your local district office at any time.

Ms. Stania Rodriquez is the regional manager for Palm Beach Council Long-Term Care Ombudsman Program.

To ask for an ombudsman’s assistance, learn more about the program, or to become a volunteer ombudsman, toll-free at 1-888-831-0404.




Hello From the Hamptons

By: Nancy Rosenstein

Hi Hamptonites!
Barbara Whitelaw has a beautiful gardenia bush that she planted from a baby 22 years ago. Bring your own scissors and take a sample. The fragrance is un-believable. Put one behind your ear and play Billie Holiday.

The Whitelaws have a string of great news and accomplishments regarding their family. Grandson Maxwell Levinson is graduating from George Wash-ington U. Grandson Elias Levinson has a gig a the U. of Vermont. Grandson Philip Ruderman contin-ues his studies in China. Granddaughter Stephanie Whitelaw is attending the U. of Barcelona. Grandson Asher David of Monsey, NY will be attending Ye-shiva Shaarei Arazim H.S. in Spring Valley, NY. Willie IV is graduating from a school in Little Rock, AK and best baby, David Whitelaw, has hit his eighth-month birthday. What great news and nachus for the Whitelaws!

Congratulations to Nancy Rosenstein for once again hitting the mark in Aberdeen On Stage. She closed the show with a rendition of “If you could see me now” from Sweet Charity. This is her third performance in an Aberdeen show, this time was held at the Park Vista Theater at Park Vista H.S. There were 700 people in attendance and we had rave reviews.

There are more Honor Flights leaving from Palm Beach. They honored the World War II Veterans, and have started with Arlington Cemetery, the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, and then on to the Korean Veteran Monument. Harry Rosenstein will be joining them sometime in the fall, as he was a Tank Commander in the Korean conflict, and served honorably. He is too modest to tell people that he was awarded 2 Bronze Stars. Good luck to all who served!

I understand that the Hampton Social Committee is planning some great events for the upcoming sea-son; as soon as I am notified, you will hear about it.

I am asking one and all to please send me any events or newsworthy items so that you can make our Hamptonites aware of what’s happening.

Have a great summer – everyone!




Harvey Baron’s Early Bird Special

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Bermuda Isle Buzz

By: Lenore Schwartz

Spring turns into summer, the days get hotter and less hectic and that makes it a good time to reflect on the pleasures of being in Bermuda Isle. Up north, the land awakened and bloomed, but here, although it’s always beautiful, we too, get the blooming of many trees and other foliage.

As you walk around the island you’ll see numerous Bougainvillea’s ablaze with purple or red flowers, a Gardenia bush with fragrant white flowers, Dorrie Haikens’ 2 Magnolia trees (though alas their massive blooms have withered) and colorful Hibiscus trees at the homes of Ketly and Marshall Williams, Judy and Peter Friedman and Ronnie Appelbaum. Helen Rose just put an unusual multi-colored hibiscus bush in her yard. Continuing on your walk, you will note that Flo and Jerry Sosniks’ beautiful pink potted Mandeville plant, Marilyn Cohen’s outstanding Bird of Paradise and yet another one at Anita Gittleson’s place. White Jasmine can be seen at the homes of Bobbie and Neil, Susan and Ron Tabin and Richard and Joann Murphy, small Pentas adorn the front of Joel and Sandy Wenacurs’ colorful flower bed with a yellow Shrimp plant and a gorgeous backyard complete with an exotic tropical garden. There’s a Desert Rose and a Lantana plant at Timmie and Moe Frieds’ abode next to Judy and Harvey Schwartzs’ big showy pink Frangipani along with a Blue Plumbago.

In the median, as you pass through the gates coming into B.I., there is a huge Plumbago along with plenty of bright Impatiens. I understand our conscientious neighbor Don Buesking waters them regularly. Thanks Don! Newly planted colorful Kalanchoe decorate the home of Bruce Frieman and Lynn Sauve. And check out the Firecracker plants at Ruth and Phil Snyders’ and in Helen and Sid Roses’ tropical garden. Many people have colorful lxoras in front of their houses (nice ones Mark and Mike) as these were planted some 20 odd years ago by the builder.

Stroll by the home of Helen and Sid and you’ll see every imaginable flowering plant flourishing here. Helen’s green thumb was nurtured in Australia.

It’s June, so where are the roses? I asked Marge Adler, who loves this flower and has tried numerous times to grow them here however, without success. She says it’s too hot in Florida and they don’t survive. Anyone want to challenge her?

Our expert horticulturist, Helen, who had pointed out all the above-mentioned plants in Bermuda Isle, has recommended some small annual plants for color this summer. The following will do well in this cli-mate: petunias, wax begonias, portulucas, salvias, pentas, gerba daisies, geraniums, and impatiens. (When the winter ones fade, plant the New Guinea impatiens which tolerate the heat). If you’re really observant, you’ll realize that Bermuda Isle is both colorful and filled with pleasant aromas.

Looking at the lakes, you’ll spot more birds and many ducks following mama duck in a perfectly straight line. Don’t you wonder how they are so well trained? On the golf course across from our homes are the beautiful Egyptian ducks who seem to gather in particular around dusk … happy hour perhaps? Someone counted 18 of them with all the babies. They’re friendly with the golfers, sometimes pecking on the carts when they see their reflections in the shiny painted sides.

This year has brought many new neighbors to our community. Though many have already been greeted, I’d like to list all who joined us this past year as this is the last issue of the Aberdeen Times until October and the start of a new season. In July, we welcomed Don and Anna Buesking, Steve and Susan Kaolik, Rob Tannenbaum and Bonnie Lappin, Bruce Frie-man and Lynn Sauve. Anita Gittleson and her com-panion Mel Krieger, along with Michael Souza and Marc Furtado. Since the beginning of this year, we have welcomed Emily Schultz and Brian Enriquez, Lloyd and Leslie Zide and last, but not least, Joel and Kathleen Sinkin. We hope that all of our new neighbors become involved in the community and enjoy living here for many years to come.

By now most residents have become familiar with the new electronic directory at the gate, and are finding it more efficient than the old one with very convenient guest cards. Many thanks go out to the board for a job well done, with outstanding work by Don and his wife, Anna, with additional help from Jake Kamp.

There are quite a few original owners and for them we feel an update on former friends is warranted. Anna May Ervolino is in touch with Mary Lou Blute. She and Ed (a great golfer) moved to Texas. Ed passed away 10 months ago. Her brother, Msgr. Jim Balint, a former B.I. resident, came to visit in Boynton Beach and was killed in a tragic car accident on Mar. 11th. Our hearts go out to the family… Recuperating on our island lessens the pain: Marge Adler, from a fractured foot, Ruth Snyder, recovering from a back operation and Harvey Schwartz is still gaining some of his strength following an unexpected operation.

Good news from Marge Adler — 2 of her great- grandsons celebrated bar mitzvahs (Sean in May and Elijah in June) and her granddaughter, Amy, became engaged to Dan Oran with a November wedding planned. Marilyn and Shelly Felds’ granddaughter, Leah Reiner, was married to Ben Mayhew on May 15th. Congrats to all!




The Sunny Shores

By now our snowbirds have all returned to their homes up north, probably looking forward to cooler weather than the unusually hot and humid days they have experienced in the last month or so and which we normally only see during the summer season. We look forward to their return next fall but in the mean-time let’s enjoy shorter lines, less traffic and 2-for ones!

If you are a regular reader of this column, you may remember that a few months ago I delineated the steps that our HOA was taking to foreclose on one of our properties. Since obtaining possession of the unit, it has been completely renovated and recently rented out to a couple with relatives in our community.

By now everyone should have their new Comcast system up and working. If, for any reason, you have not had your new telecommunications access installed, please call Comcast immediately to set up an appointment at your convenience. Do not delay. Your HOA monthly maintenance fee has been adjusted to take into account the new costs and you should now be enjoying the enhanced service provided in our new contract.

In Feb. 2013, the board undertook a Reserve Fund Study to ensure that The Shores was on the path to financial stability, now and in the future. The board is happy to report that monthly contributions by all homeowners are in keeping with the recommendations of the financial analyst and that a committee has been established to review these guidelines and create a Strategic Plan to implement the maintenance and repairs our development requires.

NEIGHBOR NEWS
We have a celebrity in our midst! Barbara Ladd recently took third price in the Point and Shoot Animal Category at the 2015 Green Key Nature Center and Wetlands Amateur Photo Contest. Barbara is also on our HOA board, responsible for pest control, in addition, she works with Diane Greenberg to process applications from prospective new homeowners. Way to go – Barbara!

We have no new residents to welcome this month and no homes for sale at the time of publication, although I personally know of people who are looking to buy as well as snowbirds seeking seasonal rentals.

Seems we are a very popular community!

Saul and I are currently touring to Canada to see our families and attend the bat mitzvah of our grand-daughter, Jordana, in Toronto. I will elaborate further in my next article which will appear in October, since the Aberdeen Times does not publish during the summer hiatus.

In the fall, I will be revising the format of this article to include a section highlighting some of our residents. I will be calling upon you to ask for your input over the next few months and hope you will assist me in this endeavor.

Until then….




Canterbury Communique

By: Dee Levy

Greetings from the Canterbury community! It’s hard to believe that June, the month of the summer solstice, is already upon us. As promised in the last issue, we’d like to share some of our residents’ life-experiences, present and former careers, and significant happenings.

Yvette Camulli, a long-time resident of Canterbury, is currently a transportation coordinator for the Palm Beach County Jewish Family Services. Yvette is in charge of the enlistment of volunteers to transport senior citizens to their various appointments. The program is called “Kibitz and Ride,” and its catchment area includes Delray Beach, Boca Raton and Highland Beach. Volunteer drivers use their own cars and are reimbursed for mileage. Fingerprinted and background checked, the volunteers are scheduled to drive at times based on their availability and personal preference. “Kibitz and Ride” has been in place since 1999, and is open to all seniors, regardless of race or religion. For those interested, be in touch with Yvette, or call JFS at 561-852-3333. Yes, volunteering is a truly a way of giving back!

Ellen Nesin, new to the Canterbury community, taught primary school in Monticello, NY, for many years, and is presently serving on the Monticello Central School District Board of Education. Her daughter, Jessica, recently graduated from the Conservatory of Music at SUNY Purchase with a Bachelor’s degree in classical piano performance. During spring break, Jessica met with the head of Collaborative Piano at Lynn U.; the appointment had been arranged by a professor to whom she was introduced at the Lynn U. Scholarship Recital at Aberdeen in March. According to Ellen, Jessica’s plan is to complete her Master’s degree in piano performance, followed by a degree in Collaborative Piano. There is a strong possibility that she will audition for admission to the graduate program at Lynn.

In closing, we wish everyone a happy and healthy month of June. “What is so rare as a day in June? Then, if ever, come perfect day”. (James Russell Lowell).




The Ashford App

By: Leah Keitz

Spring has definitely arrived with colorful flowers blooming throughout the community. Everyone is taking part in making Ashford the most attractive and well-kept village in Aberdeen. Thank you all for caring.

Several residents have already gone to their summer homes and left on their “world tours.” We wish them all a safe and enjoyable time away from Ashford. We look forward to welcoming you back.

We welcomed new residents to Ashford in 2016: Frederick and Frances Grossman, Bruce and Sharon Sussman and Laurie Wohl. This will be a busy summer for many of us as we celebrate happy family events. Stan and Marilyn Gilman will celebrate in MA in May on the occasion of their granddaughter’s bat mitzvah as well as their 50th Anniversary. In June, they will travel to Philadelphia to enjoy the bar mitzvah of their grandson.

Neal and I will be traveling later this summer from one end of the country to the other to celebrate with our grandchildren who will become bar and bat mitzvah, respectively.

The pool area at Ashford and Ashford Green has been refurbished from top to bottom and end to end, including the new blacktopping of the parking lot. The Ashford Maintenance Board is responsible for this beautification and we all appreciate its efforts. It has also updated security devices at our entrance gates. F

YI: Old and unused medication should never be thrown in the trash or flushed away. The proper disposal of medications is an important issue and protects us all from substances that are harmful if they get into our water supply. The nearest official DEA disposal site is: Ocean Ridge Police Department, 6450 N. Ocean Blvd., Boynton Beach, FL 33435. The green collection box inside the door to the right is open 24/7.

Have a happy and safe summer!




Communication With an Aging Parent

My widowed father prides himself on being independent. But during my recent visit I noticed his medications (he takes a number of them) scattered in different parts of the house. Some bottles were on the kitchen counter, others by his nightstand. I’m concerned he’s getting confused and could hurt himself, but I don’t know how to tell him this. Any suggestions?

Answer:
Almost half of adult children surveyed in a research project conducted by Home Instead Senior Care, Inc., expressed concern about their parent’s medication management. Other worries, according to the survey, include the parents’ finances, living alone, driving habits, their health and what plans they have for late life choices.

For many boomers, however, these are sensitive subjects to discuss with their aging parents, said communications expert, Dr. Jake Harwood who acknowledges such talks are especially difficult when the parent is still dealing with his or her grown child like a child, rather than as an adult. However, such conversations are important to initiate before a situation reaches a crisis stage.

To that end, Harwood, author of Understanding Communication and Aging, offers tips for conversation starters for sensitive senior subjects in a pamphlet published by Home Instead Senior Care titled The 40-70 Rule. (For a copy, call 954-505-7957.)

For the medication quagmire, Harwood suggests in the booklet, to begin the conversation with something casual like “How the heck do you keep all these pills straight, Dad?” If his response is sensible like the meds kept in the kitchen are those taken with meals, and the ones by his nightstand are what he takes at night – there’s no need to worry.

If, however, said Harwood, dad seems confused, the situation warrants attention. Offer to buy a pill organizer (available at pharmacies) and set up a week’s worth of meds to get him started. Check often to see if he’s doing OK. Be sensitive when talking to your dad as he may feel embarrassed and resistant to help.

Check your tone of voice, don’t nag. Approach it as a conversation, not as a scolding or lecture. Remember, he’s your dad, not your child.




Ask an Ombudsman

Volunteers advocating for Florida’s long-term care residents answer your questions regarding the health, safety, welfare, and rights of residents in long-term care facilities.

Sponsored By: Aberdeen’s Resident Long Term Care Certified Ombudsman
Pauline Ogus, Sam Golden, Ronnie Ostrow and Marty Weissman

Q: What is a Long-Term Care Ombudsman?
A: An ombudsman is a specially-trained and certified volunteer who has been given authority under federal and state law to identify, investigate and re-solve complaints made by, or on behalf of, long-term care facility residents. Ombudsmen respond to resident complaints and concerns ranging from issues with medication and care administration to matters of dignity and respect. It is the ombudsman’s role to protect the legal rights of residents and assure that they receive appropriate treatment and quality care. The experience of being helped by an ombudsman is often comforting. Our volunteers offer direct assistance to those who need and request it, and strive to resolve concerns with warmth and professionalism.

Q: What if I have a concern about Long-Term Care?
A: Anyone can report a concern, including residents, relatives, friends, facility staff, legal representatives and other concerned citizens. Complaints may be related to the facility, its employees, or any agency or person that threatens or violates the rights, health, safety or welfare a resident.

Complaints filed with the Long-Term Care Ombudsman Program are kept completely confidential, unless permission is given by the resident or complainant to disclose related information. Details of the complaint are documented and the case is as-signed to a local ombudsman for investigation. The ombudsman contacts the complainant or resident within seven calendar days and begins a thorough investigation. Once all facts are verified, the ombudsman takes appropriate action by advocating for the best possible solution that satisfies the resident.

Ms. Stania Rodriguez is the District Manager for the Palm Beach County Long-Term Care Ombudsman Program.

To ask for an Ombudsman’s assistance, learn more about the program, or to become a volunteer ombudsman, call the District Office at 561-837-5038 or toll-free at 1-888-831-0404.




Realistic Goals Lead to Better Activity Habits

For anyone, some activity is better than none. By starting at a pace that is a little challenging for you, whether it’s adding a l0-minute walk to your day or working up to an hour of walking a day, you can get stronger and reduce your cancer risk.

Setting goals – even small ones – is essential to making physical activity part of your daily routine. Set a goal for a week, write down the physical activity you do for how long, how vigorously, where and when. Afterward, you’ll be able to judge what activities work best for you. Use the “SMART” system. The letters stand for:

Specific: A specific goal describes exactly what you must do to reach your goal. What will you do to be more active?

Measurable: A measurable goal allows you to track your progress. How often will you be more active?

Achievable: A goal can be as high as you want it to be, but make sure you know it is possible. Will that type of activity be something you can do now?

Realistic: Goals should be realistic considering your resources and time. How can you fit your goal into your budget and schedule?

Timely: Give yourself a specific time frame. When do you aim to reach your goal?

A SMART goal example would be: “I will take the stairs instead of the elevator 3 times per week over the next month.”

More ideas are:
Take a 5 minute activity break once every hour during the day, even if it’s just standing to stretch your legs.

Stand up and pace while you’re talking on the telephone.

Before or after a meal, take a 15 minute walk. Offer to walk a neighbor’s dog.

Lift hand-held weights anytime you’re sitting, even while you watch TV.

Borrow a beginner’s exercise video for stretching, aerobics or tai chi from the library and try it out at least once this week.

At least two days this week, spend 15 minutes doing some form of aerobic exercise, like brisk walking, vacuuming, bicycling, rowing, swimming laps or following a low-impact aerobic exercise video.

At least two days this week, spend at least 15 minutes doing some form of strengthening exercise, that may include: lifting free weights or doing resistance band exercises, doing wall push–ups or doing sit-ups.

Get social smart – You may feel more motivated with a friend or neighbor to walk or cycle with. Or consider a club for hiking, boating, cycling, dancing, and walking. All offer ways to become more active. American Institute for Cancer Research – Winter 2016 Issue 130